How to Gain Confidence in Your Natural Beauty - MissLJBeauty

How to Gain Confidence in Your Natural Beauty

Unfortunately, feeling confident about the way that you look doesn’t come easily for everyone, but there are a few things that you can do to boost your confidence and feel better overall. 

Identify Why You Have Low Confidence

The first thing you should do is try to identify exactly why your confidence is so low. This could be due to a number of factors, but figuring out what is triggering it could help you a lot in terms of fixing it. A lot of times, your lack of confidence in your physical appearance actually has very little to do with how you look, and is stemming from something else.


For some people, unresolved childhood trauma can make them feel bad about themselves and how they look. In other cases, it could be anxiety related, such as hyperfixation or over analyzing something about your appearance. If you aren’t living with untreated anxiety, it might be easy for you to convince yourself that your nose actually isn’t that big, or your body looks great. However, anxiety can heighten these feelings until you are obsessing over them.


If you have symptoms of other mental health issues, you should seek help from a professional. Addressing these may help you address your self confidence without having to spend any additional time on it. You don’t need plastic surgery or botox to feel good about the way you look, sometimes it's just about training your mind. 


Write Down the Positives

Even if it feels silly, writing things down can really help train your mind to start believing it. One great exercise to improve your confidence is to write down all of the things you like about your body. No matter what it is, try to be as positive as possible in everything that you write. It could be that you love the color of your hair or something very simple like a freckle you think is unique. Spend time really trying to come up with these things initially. 


After you’ve created your initial list you should continue adding to it whenever you find yourself thinking of something you love about your appearance. You could even carry the list around with you, so that you can add to it as soon as you think of something new. If this kind of spontaneity doesn't work for you, try setting aside a few minutes each day or once a week to sit down and think of what to add. 


You can also do this exercise continuously, rather than adding to the same list. If you’d prefer, take some time once a week to create a brand new list, and as you go on you may come to realize that you are able to come up with new things each week. 

Look In the Mirror, A Lot

While this may seem simple and even counterintuitive, looking into the mirror is actually a proven way to help improve your low self esteem. By looking into the mirror and telling yourself things you like about the image staring back at you, you can program your cognitive behavior to appreciate your beauty. 


This is also something you can do at home, or anywhere you pass a mirror. You can even turn it into almost like a game to keep yourself motivated. So each time you pass a mirror, take a moment to give yourself a compliment. Of course, you don’t have to do this if you are with people and it would be embarrassing, but taking small mental notes here and there will truly boost your confidence in the long run. 





Jenn Walker is a freelance writer, blogger, dog-enthusiast, and avid beach goer operating out of Southern New Jersey.




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