How does money affect relationships? - MissLJBeauty

How does money affect relationships?

Hi everyone, 

How are you all today?

Today I want to talk about money and relationships. How they impact us and our futures. I want to share with you this amazing study that shepherds friendly  Have created with Dr Becky Spelman. Its all about how money affects our relationships. I was super surprised by some of the results. They really have asked the questions we are too scared to really address in our relationships. How money impacts relationships?


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I was surprised by That money plays any part in how attractive you find a potential partner. These seem to be especially important to women over 60. I guess they are looking for extra support in there later years. 

The date night dilemma. 
I always thought I would be traditional when it came to dates. But When I actually think this though I would always try to pay and if I was bought dinner I would buy the drinks. I always like to pay my way and If I am honest I like to overpay then feel I owe anyone anything.  

How much a partner earns? 
Now this one I know when I was younger meant nothing to me at all. I did not care. This has changed I have been the sole breadwinner in my first proper relationship. It was more than hard. I was studying at college and had two jobs to support both of us. Whilst my partner at the time worked part-time and did very little to help me. With all the will in the world, this leads to a huge annoyance in the relationship. I just couldn't get my head around not wanting to work and earn money to make life better. So now I would consider finances in that sense. I do not expect to be paid for by I do expect you to pay your way. 

What you earn. Your partner's salary. 
I have never thought about this at all. But I guess thinking about it, I have always had a rough idea of my partners salary. Mostly because we have worked in the same company or organization. 

Break up worry. 
Now full discloser I have been burned by my ex. Funny enough the one above who didn't want to get a full-time job. After we split. He was cheating on me with a school girl. No not joking. I found out all the money I was giving him to pay the council tax he was pocketing and was left with a huge debt. Next up he took out credit cards in my name. Yes fraud but very hard to prove. So I was left with a negative credit file and huge piling debt. One bitten twice shy. I was in my early 20's and had huge debt thanks to him. I was a very hard pill to swallow and paying his debts nearly broke me. mentally and physically. I don't think bankruptcy is a reason to break up but I do think to lie and hide the problem would affect me and that would lead to a breakup. 

Saving, 
I agree we should all save but I also am a bit like life happens. Whenever I get to a good saving place something happens, The car breaks down etc. I feel like our generation is struggling with saving especially for a mortgage and this was not the way our parents had it. There are no 100% mortgages, so to get on the property ladder is a lot harder now ages. It is just a different financial climate. 

What a brilliant and thought-provoking study. What do you think? Would it affect you? 

MissLJbeauty